AT THE CORE OF THE FEMININE PRINCIPLE IS AN UNDERSTANDING THAT ALL THAT IS CREATED IS CATALYZED FIRST BY DESIRE  

FAR FROM BEING TRIVIAL, THIS TIME NEEDS US TO LEAN INTO OUR DESIRE MORE THAN WE EVER HAVE BEFORE.  WE NEED TO DESIRE LIKE OUR LIVES DEPEND ON IT. BECAUSE THEY DO. 

My personal invitation to You...

I just finished listening to Kamala Harris’s 107 Days while walking “home” from a bus stop in Madison, Tennessee (one of the small cities that makes up Metro Nashville). 

This moment is nothing I was expecting. If you’ve been following my journey, you might have seen that I recently bought a little house in Ecuador and made a decision to make a permanent-for-now move to Latin America. But I’ve been in the US for almost three months, waiting for the Ecuadorean government to agree to my brilliant plan. 

I’m writing from a garage apartment owned by a woman in my ecstatic dance community, because Nashville short-term rental prices are the definition of insanity. Instead of a closet, there’s a recording booth in my bedroom. Because Nashville…  

It’s a highly improvised chapter of my life, but all my big visions and my daily work are still alive and being tended inside of it. 

So trust me when I tell you that I know some things about what it means to carry a burning desire to create inside of a life that’s not going according to plan. 

But back to Kamala... This book is all about how she had just 107 days, between Joe Biden dropping out of the race for the US presidency and the day of the election, to win one of the most influential positions in the world, at a time that was pivotal for the future of humanity. 

In case you haven’t done the math, that’s 3 and a half months. It’s nothing. No time. I’ve spent longer than that thinking about this primer. Fer real. 

Two years ago, when I voted for her, essentially by email, from a resort hotel on the Mediterranean Sea, in the middle of driving our retreat participants back to Cairo from the western desert, I hadn’t really been wholly able to fathom what she was up against. The impossible timeline, the racism, the sexism, the apathy, the legitimate outrage about a genocide whose seeds were sown years before her time. 

If you’re not following US politics that closely, don’t worry, that’s not ultimately the point. What’s really stuck with me is that she ends the book with the clarity that the work of building our collective future remains. That losing that particular presidential election didn’t relieve her of the responsibility to do the work. 

Even when she didn’t get the job. Even when she didn’t have the support that she needed. Even as the job went to somebody who would undermine everything she held dear. 

It isn’t about what we could do in ideal conditions. It’s about what we’re going to do in the conditions exactly as they are. 

The future hasn’t been decided. Right now, there are many possible futures, and the one that will prevail is up to us.

One of the things that can feel so daunting is figuring out HOW to show up to a moment like this and WHERE TO BEGIN. Not whether you want to or why it matters but WHAT TO ACTUALLY DO??!

It’s why I feel called to bring us back to basics. Because the important answers to these questions live in our kitchens and showers and bedrooms and cars. They arise in the places where we listen to ourselves (or don’t) and allow ourselves to imagine (or don’t) how the world could be if we had it all our way. 

The still small voice tickling at each of us in the midst of days already crammed with essential tasks and childcare and work demands IS the whisper of what is possible.  

Maybe you’re thinking that that sounds too small or even selfish, but the women I know imagine rest and being connected to each other in communities of support and provision and becoming stewards of the land rather than extracting from it. The kitchen tables that I’ve sat at are full of potential worlds, resplendent with love and care for one another and the earth. 

What I know for sure is that anything we can create from here will begin with the embers of desire in our own individual hearts. It won’t always start with a run for the presidency or a vision for a multi-million dollar foundation. 

We have to allow ourselves to bathe in the native ocean of our own unrestricted desires in order to be able to choose the paths that will really matter. When we are in right relationship with desire, we can choose which ones we want to back with decision, commitment, and the full weight of our energetic resources. But, first, we must submit to be nourished by the more simple impulses to have ice cream and sex (same same) and to plant flowers and take naps and meet friends. 

The movement will be born from the increase in the number of souls that have been allowed to truly stir. 

I think you see where I’m going here. 

Won’t you join me for this 4-day exploration of Desire + The Possible Future. 

Yours Truly, 

Kianga

Madison, Tennessee, USA

October 2026

Desire + The Possible Future will help you… 

We know that it's just four days and that the real work will happen over the long haul.

But our dedicated time together will support you to...

Uncover what it is that you desire…just because it feels good to desire it.

Decide who you are going to be and what you are ready to commit to, and then move toward it as if it is already yours. 

Let go of needing to know how to achieve your desires before allowing yourself to have them.

Listen to the tiny voice within that knows exactly how you are to get from here to there, that knows exactly what you need.

Receive the breadcrumbs of clues for your unique path…the perfect puzzle pieces in the perfect time.

The truth about desire

Any beautiful thing you want to create in your life… a new romance, more spark in the old romance, a new home, travel, more money, new friendships, a new business, a more vibrant and just world, more collective thriving… begins with the Desire for it revealed to yourself and accepted.

We so often get confused that Desire is the cause of suffering. That it's better just to be grateful for what we have and not want more. But this is a misunderstanding. And mostly a confusion of living in a Masculine Era–a time period where much of the prevailing "wisdom" and guidance has been based on the masculine aspect.

For The Feminine (that's the name that we give to all of the combined expressions of the feminine aspect) all good things begin with knowing your own Desire. What you crave, what you long for, what you yearn for are all whispers to you from a future version of yourself that is more self-expressed, more content, and more aligned with the gift that you are to the world.

Your greatest life is based in your Desire. Your relationship satisfaction, your vocational satisfaction, your day-to-day feeling of delight and contentment begins here. And that wellbeing is also the font from which the collective wellbeing is served. 

There are a thousand ways to kill Desire. Ignoring it to death is just one choice. You can also transfer it, limit it, disbelieve it, or hide it in your serving of your children's needs, your spouse's needs, your community's needs, your job’s requirements, or the urgent demands of a world in crisis. You can leave it forever deferred into the future, locked in the prison of a bucket list you may get to before you die, hogtied by the belief that you have to have the money first in order to pursue it.

But what if it didn’t have to be that way?

I have to pause as I write that, because there was a time that I used my feminine energy rarely and without any conscious awareness of it. Until my own awakening, I'd never even heard anyone talk about how or why I might use it. My own path to this understanding was fueled by pure exhaustion. When I thought about living the rest of my life in the same way that I'd achieved success up to that point, I would just break down in tears. Privately, of course, while still showing up in all of the many contexts that expected my dedication and grace, smiling and unflinching. At some point, blurry-eyed and completely unsure what might come next, I allowed myself to walk away from everything I knew.

Fast forward to today, I’ve built/am building both a business and a life without force or efforting, without exhausting myself with the endless to-do’s and shoulds of my previous lives. I move from what turns me on. I grow my offerings organically, largely from the seat of my intuition.

It’s a sustainable life that I LOVE and that is deeply sourced from a place of feminine power.

I have an MA/PhD (abd) in cultural theory and an MFA in fine art. I’m also a certified life coach, an ordained intuitive, and an Orgasmic Meditation trainer. But what really qualifies me to do this work is that I’ve walked the walk in the real world. 

I bring my decades of work as an artist and educator with a refined expertise in experience and curriculum design into lovingly-crafted, intimate contexts that help you get more connected with your own innate wisdom.  It's not about being a purveyor of information.  It’s the absolute magic of creating a context for you to have your own personal and direct experience with the Principles of Creation. My invitation to you is always to become more of who You are.  That's what I'll be up to. I look forward to meeting you soon!

Reasons you might still say no… 

Now you have all the info. You've understood the proposition and you believe it has merit--that it could actually change the way you've been approaching doing life and making change for the better.

And you're still thinking, it's just not possible beacuse... 

You’ve got a lot going on. You’re making big things happen, and, everywhere you look, you’re in charge of something: a household, a partnership, kids, employees, the success of a company, maybe a company of your own, making your mark in the world as best you can.

You’re trying to keep all the balls in the air amidst making big moves. Secretly you know you’re feeling exhausted and this path is unsustainable.

You've probably made an investment (or a few) in coaching programs or business support that didn’t bring everything you’d hoped it would. 

It's likely that at least once while reading this you thought… well that sounds interesting, but I really don't have the time.

We get it. We've been there too. 

We just want to remind you that the time you make for you to hear the still-soft whispers of your own Desire is the most important time you'll ever make.

This primer is designed to work with your schedule. You'll want to be engaged and involved to get the most out of it, but you don't have to be able to make it live. Each day’s session will be recorded, and the recordings will be available for the duration of the primer and for a few days after.

What if this could be the first step toward both the more nourished, more resourced life you've been hoping for and the more just, more benevolent world you want to see?

 If you've ever… 

...had a beautiful vision for something positive you wanted to contribute to the world but no energy to actually move it forward.

...had no answer when someone asks you what you want?

...deferred to what other people in your group want to do, to eat, or to see?

...turned away from a dream because you couldn't see how to realize it?

...told yourself that once you get to the next major promotion, certification, independence milestone with your child, that then... maybe then... you could have time to relax, time to go to a dance class, time to work on yourself?

...felt guilty for something you know that you want?

...thought–I don't have time for that…I have a business to run? or I have a job to do? or I have a family to take care of?

Then you really can't afford to miss this. 

These are the everyday ways that we block desire.

And we tell ourselves that we are making the sacrifices that *must* be made so that everyone's needs can be met. But this is actually the great lie.